Anonymous cougar chat
I can't say much about the quality of people you'll meet, but Tinder does everything it can to make the process of meeting new people easy.
You may not find the love of your life, but the concept of the app is brilliant, and the execution is excellent: finding real people, close by, that want to meet, without the fear of blatant rejection.
That's not to say it's guaranteed that this will be a short-term deal, but it could be, just like any relationship could be, and for me, it's all about fun and not so much about developing real feelings, so it makes sense to skip right to the good bits.
Just a few months ago, I had no idea that a cougar's lover was called a cub, but apparently it is.
Another curiosity was the backlog of people I would get when travelling.
I was 4000 miles away, and the app 'scanned my location', yet potential Tinder matches from my previous location were still popping up.
I wanted to push him to make something happen next time we saw each other. You see, as eager as teenagers are (and let me tell you, they are eager and willing), they are also still a little bit innocent, and the prospect of any kind of relations with a much older companion can be actually a bit scary. Before there was the teenager, there was a 21-year-old intern who sparked my interest and really got the ball rolling with this whole shebang. ) So while my initial adventure into this whole cougar lifestyle has been a bit rocky, it has taught me a few things that I can carry into my future endeavors. Face it, you probably don't have a whole lot in common with someone who is 10-plus years younger than you and is very new to this whole adult life.
We spent a few days in close quarters, dancing around the attraction but never acting on it. But I've never felt so much pressure to nail it every time.And, unless someone's gone to the trouble of making a fake Facebook profile, you can be sure that the person you 'like' is who they say they are. Tinder finds out who likes you nearby and connects you with them if you're also interested. 1) Tinder shows you someone nearby it thinks you should know, and lets you anonymously like or pass on them...2) If someone you like happens to like you back, then Tinder makes an introduction & lets you chat within the app.For weeks, I have painstakingly taken selfie after selfie for Snapchat and agonized over cute, flirty messages to go along with them that have the right words to keep a teenager's interest.
Do you know how long the attention span of a 19-year-old is? He's someone I knew years ago (as in, when he was actually a child) but hadn't seen in quite a while.
I wouldn't say I'm totally embracing the cougar lifestyle, but I did start chatting up some guys between 19 and 21, and while it's exhilarating, it's also very, very exhausting.